So I saw a trending story on social media of a guy who bought his ex-girlfriend who is currently in a relationship a Benz! Wow, what an expensive gift! But what is the real intention behind this gift… when he knows she is in a relationship and her current boyfriend who maybe can’t afford such a gift? Is this a “stunt” on her current boyfriend? Is this a gift or a bait? Should a guy give such an expensive gift to his ex when he knows she is in another relationship and has moved on?
See full story below:
Firstly in this kind of situation, you should first try and understand the intentions of the person giving the gift. He says it is because the girl was good to him, but let’s not try to gloss over it; the intention in giving such an expensive gift is to remain in the heart of the girl.
A gift is a very expressive way to show affection and/or interest (except where the gift is for charity). Ladies love gifts no matter how little it is; it just makes us feel excited and loved. So knowing this, what should the lady do in the case where she really values her new relationship?
In my opinion, it depends on the relationship. If she has a serious relationship but not committed to marriage yet, she should maybe make a decision with her new guy to sell the car and cut off from this old boyfriend immediately. As a lady, you have to be smart: tomorrow the new guy may come with stories that touch the heart and you’ve lost an 8 million or ten million car over “love” for him. By selling the car, the girl is showing her current boyfriend that she’s being considerate and not interested in driving around in a gift that reminds her of her ex. At the same time, she’s making sure that since this new guy has not yet “put a ring on it” she not throwing away good money over something that might never become anything. Also, she’s showing the ex that his gift is appreciated but not valued too much. When he had his chance he messed it up and he won’t be getting the satisfaction of her driving the car he bought for her.
Another different case is if the couple is about to marry or married. In this case, thanks but no thanks! The guy should keep his gift. Once you accept to marry or are married, you should live within the means of what your relationship can provide and afford. Any gifts to a married couple should be from family and friends and not people you had previously dated or people interested in you.
To me, this guy obviously doesn’t have a pure intent. If you messed up in the past and want to get her an apology gift, the best gift is to leave her alone and mind your business. Go ahead and say sorry if it helps your conscience, but after that keep it moving. Don’t come stressing her life with your drama.