Who should pay on the first date? This topic has been a kick starter to several arguments in the past few decades, mostly because of the emergence of third wave feminism that strives to make gender roles less rigid. The question of who should pay on the first date to the 21st century woman takes different forms.
Side A says the man should always pay on the first date. To side A, he’s the man and it’s only right. Now if this is her stance, then I don’t think she should call herself a feminist, after all feminism calls for blurring out the lines between both genders. Though I don’t think it’s hypocritical to accept a date’s offer to pay. But do think it’s hypocritical of you to hold rigid gender roles while calling yourself a label that CLEARLY calls for the reduction/removal of the rigidness of the roles.
Side B says both sides should go dutch, i.e. both parties split the bill. This opinion is mostly held by people who advocate gender equality. If there are no defined gender roles, why should any party be obligated to pay for the date?
Side C says who ever suggests the date pays. It’s from the belief that you brought up the idea so it’s only right you take care of the bill. Some also hold the belief that you’re paying for their time since you initiated the date.
Where do I fall? hmmmmhh mostly side C. I believe who ever does the asking out should be prepared to foot the bills, though I’ve only paid for both myself and the date once. The other times, they won’t allow me pay for them so we just go dutch. I think everyone should do what’s comfortable for them. As a general rule, every lady should have vex money abeg! This is a really serious matter and I give a serious side eye to women who do not practice this rule. Why do you leave your house with absolutely no money, not even to take yourself back home? What if something unexpected happens and your date can’t pay?What happens then? Also, if you fall in side A and/or C, it is extremely inconsiderate for you to order for what you would not be able to afford if you were paying.
What do you think? Who should pay on the first date? #HaveYourSay #WhatsYourTake